Black Families Matter: #keepfamiliestogether, A Violent and Forgetful Initiative


Context: Allow me to Set the Scene. 

I imagine they left hours before sunset, seeking to be on a linear path by the time sun retired to its hiding place. There is a deafening silence, aside from the occasional moan and groan. The scent of bodies and bodily functions overwhelm the space. One on top of another, bodies are placed on top of one another. Christened in bodily fluids, the physically bonded share the experience of mental dehumanization. A woman that was once a mother, is now a faceless, and genderless body on a ship whose name no longer matters. She longs for her children, just as her mother continent longs for her stolen offspring. Her children are lost and afraid. Their parents can’t find them in the discordance of their displacement amongst the hard floors of a ship. Fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers, and children listen to the sound of their loved one’s limp bodies hit the water. Others watch as their loved ones jumped from the ship to avoid bondage—their bodies transitioning from abductee to atoms that are still present in the water today. Black bodies fought internally as the pale people deemed them stock— their value stripped and replaced by western commerce.  IMG_4175

My ancestors were one of those bodies thrown carelessly onto a ship–  their journey a manifestation of a nightmare.  They are as familiar to me as they were to their own children and parents. Their memory is phantasmal, both there and not there, both seen and not seen. I know they existed because I am the fruit of their tree. The traces of this tree, however, are long gone. Not often enough do we search our mind for their memory and scan our bodies for their touch.  

Their lives and displaced memory are a testament to the very cruelty that continues to plague their descendants. Their lives are lost and utterly forgotten in a contemporary climate that campaigns to “keep families together” as the black collective continues to suffer from the aftermath of families separated centuries prior. 

IMG_4180In his Autobiography, Frederick Douglass speaks of the nighttime visits from his mother
who walked miles to see him. He never saw her face, but felt the impact of a severed family long before a hashtag. Douglass mirrors what many black children experienced during bondage, and even what many black children face in a contemporary climate that continues to subject the black body to forces that separate families often indefinitely.

IMG_4176These severed familial ties are the reason why  I am writing this prose in english. Why my last name speaks of a slavemaster, a rapist who is overlooked in the contemporary #metoo movement. Therefore, I cannot retweet that hashtag in good faith, or even consider supporting this deflective initiative, because I am still mourning the lost families of the African Holocaust. 

The “I” I speak of is the descendant of black bodies stolen and enslaved by those who continue to dictate the conversation. A conversation that continues to omit the struggles of the first migrants, the first families severed deliberately to butcher ties to a continent whose children were stolen and her natural resources stripped from her loins. The current conversations around immigration turn my black body red with anger, as they exclude those who literally and figuratively reproduce a colonialism “his” story violently references as in the past. 

Migrants come here by choice. A choice my ancestors never had. Therefore, I can not and will not sympathize with migrant stories that function to erase the slave narratives that foreshadow a  contemporary misfortune that does not graze the lasting impact of past tragedies. 

If this seems harsh, consider how you’d feel if your ancestors were stolen, stripped, tortured, raped, branded with their master’s name, robbed of their legacy and their earnings by a country who offers humanity to those who choose what was a chosen for us? 

A Violent Terminology

Let me say that America is absolutely indebted to migrants from the illusive “third img_4184.jpgworld.” This country’s wealth remains enabled by exploiting countries labeled third world. These third word countries enable first world privileges, privileges the black body does not bask in, and did not steal. It is not the abducted African that exploited the resources of our diasporic brothers and sisters and those of the African adjacent. Yet, although America exploits other countries, it is important for the black collective to not forget that the first location depleted of its resources was not a country but a continent. Our continent. 

The word “migrant” functions similarly to “person of color,” a violent terminology used to erase the black struggle in suggesting a cruel and non-existent commonality. These statements allow phrases like “we are all immigrants” to function, to place the kidnapped black body as a migrant and ignore centuries of legalized cruelty. “Migrant/immigrant” and “person of color” also silently address a hierarchy that places the black body at the bottom, when and if they address the black body at all. 

Nevertheless, this country was not build by migrants. This country was built by the enslaved bodies of Africans, the same bodies that continue to hold this country together in a non-negotiable degeneracy.  A degeneracy needed to ensure the fabricated superiority of whites, black migrants, and non-persons of color. Our bodies compose the nation in which all stand. Our blood birthed the very hierarchy system manipulated to consistently place those descended from the African architects of today and yesterday at the bottom. 

The “other” oppressors

Immigrants are cast as contemporary slaves, not an effort to highlight the struggle of past slaves, but IMG_4182to deflect from a past enslavement. A deflection that persistently encourages blacks to empathize with migrants in the same breath blacks are encouraged to collectively chastise Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Sandra Bland amongst other slain blacks who fail to personify the perfect victim. We as a collective are encouraged to feel everything but pride. We are pumped with knowledge about everything and everyone but ourselves. 

We as a collective are seduced into empathizing with those who invade our communities in a quest for capital. Who take our dollars and place it into their own communities where a non-migrant body is not welcome to shop let alone work or live. We are to cry for those who wish to reproduce the disenfranchisement the white man has cast onto the black collective. 

Our migrant brothers and sisters have largely joined the sides of our oppressors. These factions have taken the soil soaked in the blood of black bodies and set up shop to sell it back to us for a profit. They have become pawns in deflecting from black issues onto those who came here for a slice of a pie made with stolen resources. Migrant bodies in America seeking capital, mirror a bacon-eating pig calling for a cease in slaughtering. This behavior may be helpful in their own quest for whiteness, but has no place in the strides towards black nationalism.

To ask the black collective to sympathize and empathize with those who vehemently deny the black collective these very sentiments is both bizarre and cruel. To ask that blacks support migrant desire to demand the very rights we have we fought to have for centuries, and to allow migrants to dominate a conversation that has yet to acknowledge the sins cast against us as a collective, is counterproductive to curating a pro black nation.


Last summer I read Gabourey Sidibe’s memoir This is Just My Face: Try not To Stare. In IMG_4178the book, Sidibe reveals that her parents descended from the same family in Senegal. Her mother’s ancestors were abducted and displaced in the American South, her father’s left to life on the other side of the world. Sidibie’s anecdote illustrates the contemporary effect of families separated centuries ago. There is no hashtag for our loss, there is visibility, and their is certainly no justice.  This information resonated deeply with me, in depicting the impact of the severed black family. A depth that is too often deemed not important enough to talk about.

Had our collective families been kept together, the black family would cease to remain marked by the last names of men who raped their way into our nomenclature. Had our families not been severely severed, we too would be fighting to maintain the very community migrants wish to keep stagnant. Instead, our issues are those of restoration. We must restore what we never had, not feel for those who had the opportunity to feel what a white supremacist world continues to deprive from the black body. 

The hashtag #keepfamiliestogether, places the abduction and pervasive systemic asphyxiation of the black body as in the past, as we as as collective continue to grapple for air. We were separated not only in enslavement, but when drugs were placed in our communities, when the AIDS epidemic seized so many of our loved ones, and through natural disasters to which black bodies succumbed to the lethal combination of our origins in America—water and white supremacy. This hashtag functions similarly to the img_4181.jpgconversations on human trafficking, which focus on every body but the black body. 

Remembering What Matters 

Here is where I am supposed to insert some phrase that mollifies my earlier statements. Just as all outspoken pro-black figures are often required to apologize with a statement that says they do not “hate” whites, I am expected to implement a statement that states that I do not “hate” migrants. A statement that articulates my wish to stand beside white, black, and non-black migrants of color as they seek to obtain what I have. 

Well, what I have is scars on my back and lacerations on my soul. I have a hole in heart for the names of those I will never know. I should say I would not wish this on anyone, but I can not help but wonder if migrants truly had to develop the survival strength of the abducted African whether they would understand America for what it is, not what it needs everyone to believe. To understand however, is beyond a wish. To understand is to become, and migrants (even those with black or dark skin), do not come here to become black, they come here to become white–or at the very least a pastel shade.  Irregardless, I also do not wish to stand beside those who wish to stand on my back. Instead, I will conclude in saying that this persistent bullying of pro-black perspectives exposes who and what is truly hated. 

This hate is the precise reason that we as a collective must love ourselves, unapologetically. A love rooted in remembering our ancestors. 

For the families separated any time in displacement and/or the economical and emotional disenfranchisement of black people, #blackfamiliesmatter. 

Black Power ❤ 

12 Comments Add yours

  1. kelley says:

    Facts upon facts. Great post

    1. Thanks Kelley! I’d love to interview you for the blog! I’ll email you.

      1. Thanks! I will be in touch!

  2. Steve says:

    “To understand is to become, and migrants (even those with black or dark skin), do not come here to become black, they come here to become white–”. I love this post but this statement sums it all up for me. I’m pretty sure many would argue that they didn’t come here to become black or white but to give their families a chance at a better life or to achieve success. But isn’t success and well being measured by one’s proximity to whiteness? I find it amazing how many people who migrate here attempt to limit their children’s exposure to their native culture and while maximizing their exposure to mainstream culture, even going so far to get plastic surgery to look more “american” but would be infuriated if someone told them that they wanted to be white. This post also sums up my disdain for contemporary “social justice” which seeks integrating people into this oppressive system as progress not realizing (or maybe they do realize) that contemporary social justice is anti black. All people want is a seat at the table, without being concerned about the foundation that the table is built on or what/who’s being served. Again great post C.C.

    1. Thanks so much for your comment Steve! I was especially moved by this query: But isn’t success and well being measured by one’s proximity to whiteness? Excellent critical query, that so many act on but refuse to articulate. Also this was expertly stated: “All people want is a seat at the table, without being concerned about the foundation that the table is built on or what/who’s being served.” Boom! When is your book coming out? lol–but I’m serious.

  3. I am at a loss of words young lioness of our most high god..what you said in this post sums it all up..all this immigration and we are the world Shit they impose on my people is pathetic. Anyone who shots on my people can kiss my ass. I ain’t supporting no1 that ain’t down for our people.once again we must realize we have no friends never have. the envy and hatred of our people is real and it’s time way past time to separate from these demonic Neanderthals and there “people of color” partners in crime..we the black Americans of this so called American dispora are the real chosen people of our most high god and our lord Young lioness .the world knows it white supremacy knows it.. Time to fight time for one last final battle for our liberation. Me and you kush diaryofanegress truth Shelby and all of my sistas and Israelite bros in here are trying to get our people ready for war… This is no game this is real.. We shall rise and we will some of us will be ready…. God bless you young cc young lioness of our most high god….I Am Derrick “Drock” Martinez original founding member of the legendary rock steady crew formed by our amazing black and brown Afro Latinos in the summer of hell itself in the south Bronx of 1977 during the birth of hip hop culture by us and for us..

    1. Hi Mr. Martinez. Always a treat to receive a comment from you! “we must realize we have no friends, never have” :: Boom :: Perfectly said! I’m trying to conduct a few interviews this summer, and I’d love to feature your perspective on diasporic blackness/hip-hop culture. If interested, please let me know! Also, is that default picture you? If so, you remind me of/favor Merlin Santana. Two handsome black kings!

  4. yes young lioness that Is my ancient ass lol and thank you for the compliment I appreciate it..and yes I will definitely be interested in giving you my perspective on hip was and still is the life force of our black and brown people and It was not made for kkkrackas ..none of Em..its our voice our struggle our essence our soul that drove hip hop culture from the Depths of poverty and abysmal living conditions of the South Bronx that gave rise to it for our very all these kkkrackas from Iggy Azalea to Eminem to g easy in my opinion exploit the culture my people made for ourselves.until white supremacy is brought to its knees there is no “hip hop is universal” and we are one and all lives matter bs .this is our fight and we will use our creation to help bring white supremacy to its knees as It was made to do.. Ain’t no solidarity in that only with our own.. Time for war young lioness bc war is at our door!… Whenever you ready young lioness you let me no… Our time is now… Children of Israel lost tribe of Judah scattered here in the America’s taken against our will well our lord will have his vengeance for what has been done and continues to be done to our people….Derrick “D rock” Martinez original founding member of the legendary rock steady crew 1977.

  5. Young lioness your asking me some great questions that I wd like to answer live.. Is it possible that you can do a live interview with me? That way I can be more candid in my responses and nothing beats a live voice especially hearing you yourself ..the young lioness of our most high god.. Ms cc saunders..D.martinez original founding member of the legendary rock steady crew 1977.

    1. Sure. I’ll email you my contact info and availability. Thank you again!!

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